Empathy and Apologies

Bill and Kathy are in their mid-forties.  They have been married twenty years and have six children.   Bill is a military officer and Kathy is a stay-at-home mom.  Kathy sought marital counseling when she caught Bill viewing Internet pornography.  A scan of the history on his laptop computer, cell phone and tablet revealed that he…

Continue Reading →

Five Reasons Why Guys Love Porn

Five Reasons Why Guys Love Porn By Peter C. Kleponis, Ph.D., SATP, CSAT Many people, especially women, wonder why men are so attracted to pornography.  They have difficulty understanding how certain photographs and videos can have such a hold on men’s attention.  While men’s attraction to pornography is due to a complex combination of biological,…

Continue Reading →

Accountability: Not Just for Sobriety Anymore

Several months ago in a counseling session with a client, l’ll call Steve, I asked him how he was working with his accountability partner for recovery. He admitted they hadn’t talked in a few weeks.  When asked why, Steve stated that the phone calls had gotten very mundane.  He and his accountability were both getting…

Continue Reading →

How do I know if I’m Addicted?

Because pornography use is so widely used and accepted today, many people may wonder if they are addicted to it. According to Dr. Mark Laaser (1992) pornography/sexual addiction is “any persistent and escalating unhealthy pattern of sexual behavior. It is compulsive in nature and used to avoid or change feelings despite destructive consequences to self…

Continue Reading →

Boredom, Isolation & Internet: The Perfect Storm

Tom was noticeably upset as he described his frustration with pornography use.  It seemed that every day at work he would end up going online and viewing pornography.  No matter what he tried, he always seemed to fall into the same pattern.  For Tom, the root causes of his internet porn use were boredom, isolation,…

Continue Reading →

Conviction: Where God’s Justice and Mercy Intersect

Marty has a strong belief in God; however, he struggled to understand God’s unconditional love for him.  Marty’s struggle with pornography addiction left him feeling worthless and unlovable, especially in God’s eyes.  For Marty, a large part of recovery is understanding how God can be both just and merciful. This is a struggle I find…

Continue Reading →

Five Reasons Why Guys Love Porn

Many people, especially women, wonder why men are so attracted to pornography.  They have difficulty understanding how certain photographs and videos can have such a hold on men’s attention.  While men’s attraction to pornography is due to a complex combination of biological, psychological and sociological processes, for laypeople they can be condensed into five reasons….

Continue Reading →

What to Expect in Recovery

While working on developing his recovery program, I asked Mike about his relationship with God.  He admitted he was frustrated with God.  He has prayed fervently that God would deliver him from his addiction.  Unfortunately he received little response.  He was still trapped in his pornography addiction.  I often meet people like Mike in my…

Continue Reading →

Understanding a Wife’s Pain

Betrayal Trauma Discovering one’s husband is a porn addict is extremely painful.  For many wives, this deep pain is actually the result of a deep emotional traumatic wound.  We call this Betrayal Trauma.  Trauma is typically defined as an occurrence wherein an individual sees or experiences a risk to their own life or physical safety…

Continue Reading →

How Pornography Affects Young People

Pornography is a major problem in our society, particularly among young people. An alarming number of young people spend countless hours viewing pornography.  What they don’t realize is how pornography really affects them.  They may view it a simple “adult entertainment,” when in reality it is seriously hurting them. To understand pornography’s effect on young…

Continue Reading →

« Older posts

© 2020 Integrity Starts Here! Peter C. Kleponis, Ph.D., LPC. SATP, CSAT-C

Websites for Therapists by TherapyTribeUp ↑